Are you struggling with unforgiveness? You are not alone.
Life can be so frustrating when you keep struggling to forgive someone who has wronged you but yet fails to do so miserably.
Unforgiveness can weigh heavily on your heart, mind, and relationships.
In this article, we will be uncovering (exploring) the hidden truth about unforgiveness, its effects and the principles towards a life free of unforgiveness, as well as the benefits of forgiveness leading to a life free from its burdens.
Understanding Forgiveness
What is forgiveness?
It is the process of letting go of offences caused by others, which usually brings pain or discomfort in the life of an individual.
Unforgiveness, however, is the inability to forgive someone despite having the willingness to do so.
Having The Right Perspective on Forgiveness
Many people find it very difficult to forgive those who have wronged them intentionally or unintentionally. This is a result of pain and relational complexities.
They tend to see forgiveness as an impossible thing due to the depth of their pain and the relationship involved.
Forgiveness sounds very upsetting or irritating to them simply because they do not want to let go.
Forgiveness may sound impossible, but having the right perspective or reframing our understanding of what it truly means makes it possible and even furthermore exciting (empowering).
Why Forgiveness is Difficult
Many people find it very difficult to forgive simply because they believe forgiving someone is like doing them a favour; they think forgiveness is all about those who have wronged them.
But that’s untrue; forgiveness is all about you and just you alone.
People often believe forgiveness benefits the offender, but it’s primarily for the one forgiving.
God urges us to love those who hate us and pray for those who persecute us (Mathew 5:44). This is because forgiveness plays a significant role in our lives here on earth.
In this world, you will always come across people who hate and persecute you, but how you navigate certain situations makes your life much easier and more fulfilling. It enables us to navigate challenging situations.
Having this understanding gives you a clear knowledge of why you should be constantly and quickly open to forgiving anyone who hates or persecutes you.
Forgiveness isn’t about doing someone a favour by forgiving them, but rather, it is about doing yourself a great favour when you forgive and even more so a greater favour when you are quick to forgive.
The Key to Forgiveness: Unconditional Love
How can we forgive?
As difficult and impossible forgiveness may sound, having the right perspective already makes it much easier for us to forgive.
The key factor to forgiveness is “UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.”
God urges us to love our neighbours unconditionally as we love ourselves (James 2:8). It is the foundation of forgiveness.
Through love, Jesus overcame sin, death, and the grave. Therefore, love never fails, and through love, we can overcome whatever seems impossible in our lives.
When you wrong someone, you will quickly want them to forgive you, the same way you should quickly forgive when someone wrongs you because you love them as Christ has loved us first.
Having The Right Motive Towards Forgiveness (Forgiving with the Right Motive)
It is important to note that God doesn’t just want us to forgive but also to forgive with the right motive.
Many people are quick to forgive simply because they feel the relationship is beneficial and, therefore, are scared to lose the beneficial factor in the relationship.
They forgive not because they truly want to forgive out of love but because they don’t want to lose what they are benefiting from the relationship.
It is the will of God that we not only forgive but also do it with the right motive.
True forgiveness is found in a pure heart – a heart filled with love. A heart filled with love possesses the right motive.
Enhances a happy and peaceful life. Forgiveness automatically free you from the borden of unforgiveness and leaving you with one less thing to worry about in life.
Deepened our relationship with God. Forgiveness is a sign of obedience to God’s commands. God requires us to love Him with all our hearts, with all our minds, with all our souls, and to live in obedience to His will. It is the will of God that we should love one another unconditionally and forgive those who have wronged us, this is because God has loved and forgiven us first unconditionally.
Strengthens our relationships among men. Forgiveness helps in strengthening our relationships with family, friends, work, business, etc.
Goal achievements. Forgiveness makes goal achievement much easier as your mind is well-centred and focused on a definite task.
Good health and long life. Forgiveness enhances good health and long life as you tend to eat healthy, sleep well and have peace of mind.
The aforementioned benefits are to further widen our understanding and to help us find valuable reasons to be quick to forgive.
“Practise a life of forgiveness daily using the principles outlined in this article, and watch how your life becomes more fulfilling and meaningful.”
Prayer and Action
Heavenly Father, thank you for revealing to me the truth about forgiveness. Thank you for your unconditional love and forgiveness, which is constantly working upon my life through the sacrifice that was made on the cross of Calvary by your only begotten son, Jesus Christ.
Please cleanse me with the blood of Jesus from every spirit of unforgiveness, and I ask that you help me to practice a lifestyle of forgiveness daily through your enabling grace.
Help me to love others as you have loved me and to walk in obedience to your will.
In Jesus’ matchless name, I pray, Amen!
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